Invitations and RSVP Etiquette

Party Remedies is committed to providing you with fun, unique party ideas and tips every day of the year. While the majority of our events are casual and cater to home entertainers, different occasions will call for different types of invitations. Here is a list of the most commonly used types of invitations we recommend:

On-line Invitations
Unless you’ve been living under a rock for the past five years, at some point you must have received an on-line invitation to an event. The benefits of an on-line invitation are obvious – it’s quick, free, and there are usually tons of ways to customize. It’s also a great way to build a sense of community among your guests, as typically the guest list and response list can be viewed by everyone. With on-line invitations you can poll your guests, make announcements and changes and much more. Of course, a disadvantage, depending on your event, is that the guest list and response list can be viewed by everyone. We would be lying if we said we never made a decision about a party based on the guest list and who is going. However, this type of behavior is also a faux pas, as delaying your response to an invitation is inconsiderate to your host. Also, depending on the service your are using and how computer savvy you are, you may skip over certain options you do not want, such as allowing other guests the freedom to invite more guests on-line. You also may skip over sections you do want, such as keeping that guest list under wraps. This works on the receiving end as well, some of your guests may not be the type who check their email 70 times a day. Consider these factors before sending out this type of invitation.
Popular services: Facebook, Evite, MySpace, American Greetings, etc.

Email allows you to send out a no-frills invitation quickly, easily, and with a bit more privacy than an on-line invitation. This method is good for when you want to pull an event together quickly and also want to provide your guests with certain details and information that they can view at their leisure, or that they can pull up on their BlackBerries on the way to your house.

Snail Mail
Sometimes an occasion calls for a good, old fashioned card stock invitation that is sent out and delivered by our lovely United States Postal Service. These days it’s a rarity to receive something in your mailbox that is not junk mail or a bill, so you’ll be surprised how many people appreciate a thoughtful invitation. Perhaps you want your guests to have a memento from the event, such as a photograph or image, and these invitations allow you the opportunity to do so. There are quite a few on-line services which allow you to create invitations using your own images. Naturally snail mail takes a bit more planning, costing you time and money. You need to considering addresses, postage, time, and much more. Errors on your invitation cannot be immediately corrected, and you do not always know if your guest even received it. A spur of the moment get together eliminates snail mail as an option. However, your guest list may include old timers who not only appreciate, but expect this form of invitation.
Popular image sharing services: Kodak, Shutterfly, Snapfish

Phone and Text Messages
Giving your guest a call or sending him a text message is the least formal way you can extend and invitation. Some gatherings are truly spontaneous, last minute affairs and you want to reach your buddies in the quickest way possible. Plus most phone services allow you to send out text messages to multiple recipients, which will get the word out about your shindig in a matter of minutes, even seconds. This method is also good if you are not looking for a response to your invitation. Consider this style of invite by asking yourself, “Will it really make a difference in my plans if [INSERT GUEST NAME HERE] shows up for [INSERT OCCASION HERE]?”

Carrier Pigeon
We just included this on here to see if you’re still paying attention to us, since we presume you’re already off to send your invites or are reading up on our latest party idea. Now, we wanted to find a carrier pigeon service for you to check out just for kicks, but unfortunately, breeding homing pigeons appears to be a lost art. Our apologies for any sadness or depression this may have caused you. If you still desire to learn more, check out this Wikipedia article.

RSVP Etiquette
We’re not going to go all Emily Post-al on you with our etiquette tips (though the Post family really does give fabulous advice) because that is not our style and if you’ve made it this far with us, it’s most likely not your style either. Our basic advice about responding to an event invitation is simple – BE TIMELY AND CONSIDERATE. Someone has taken the time to include you in their plans, the least you can do is provide them with a timely and accurate response, especially if there is an RSVP date. Your host may have quite a few factors to worry about and an accurate guest list is one of their greatest planning tools. Yes, life does get in the way sometimes, and if you honestly do not know if you can make it (work schedule, depends on a babysitter, event may conflict with a previous commitment), let your host know immediately why you are on the fence. Otherwise (and we do agree with Emily on this one) your behavior could be perceived as rudeness, which could cause an unnecessary rift with your host.